Here it is. My first ever blog post as a life coach. I have been putting off writing this for days. Why, you ask? It’s not that I don’t have a lot of great ideas of things to write about and to share with you. Tidbits of wisdom and inspiration. Nuggets of advice and intention. It’s FEAR. Fear of being judged, for writing something stupid, for having a comma in the wrong place or a misspelled word. Everyday as a life coach I help clients identify their fears. I help them describe them, name them, confront them, break through them. I hold them accountable for making a change, support them in making small steps to letting fears ago. I help them retrain their brains to not turn away from their fears but to acknowledge them and release them. It is incredibly empowering to witness and experience.
Why is it so hard to take my own coaching training and apply it to my fears?
I kept thinking it over, worrying about what the perfect first coaching blog should be about. I realized I wasn’t going to get anywhere because I was focusing all my energy on the negative. I had already closed the door on my first blog post without even putting a word to paper. Instead of worrying about being perfect, I decided instead to focus on being authentic.
Here I am. My name is Tori Hallowell, and I am a life and empowerment coach for millennials who are struggling with burnout, lacking work/life balance, and have no idea what their purpose in life is. I help the stuck get unstuck. I help the directionless find a new path. I help those whose batteries are running on low get recharged. I love what I do, but it took me a long time (and a bit of coaching) to find my own passion and purpose.
I write like I talk. I add jokes, puns, sarcasm, sass and try to make it entertaining and fun. I also like to teach, inspire, and share. I love how writing can push you to be vulnerable. Therein lies the second fear. I am afraid of not being perfect and of being vulnerable. What’s the best way to get over this fear of being less than perfect and being vulnerable while promoting yourself and your writing on the interwebs? Just go ahead and do it. Write something and post it. So here I am. In my complete, raw, imperfect, and authentic self.
Are you tired of being held back by your fears? But you aren’t sure how to break through them? In coaching we refer to your fears as your Gremlins. The Gremlin is a metaphor for the part of yourself (that internal thought) that is triggered from self-doubts or negative experiences that happened during childhood. Gremlins are there to protect you: protect you from getting hurt, from being let down, embarrassed, or misled. But they also prevent you from living, from taking risks, and seeing new opportunities. I encourage you to take a moment and reflect on your own Gremlins. What would it take to release them? If you were able to tame and control your Gremlin, you would be surprised to learn that they can turn into powerful allies and means of support.
To learn more about how to tame your Gremlin stay tuned for my next blog post…..
And THANK YOU for taking the time to read this one. I am already kicking my Gremlin to the curb and feeling more confident and empowered :)